The Kinship Ray is the most important and the least specific of the Sirat-i Inayat activities. The instructions are wide open because we are expected to practice friendship, kindness, tolerance and graciousness with all beings in all situations.

And, still, we benefit from a framework and some guidance.

Pir-o-Murshid Inayat Khan described humanity like a large fairy who looks into the windows of a dollhouse and wishes she could go inside to play. But she is too big, so she sends one hand through one window, a foot through the door, her ears down the chimney, her torso in through the root cellar, her elbows slide in through the mail slot. Once all her pieces are inside the house, they start bumping into each other and feeling irritated because they do not recognize that they are all parts of the same being. We, human beings, are just like those different parts of the fairy. We are all part of One Being, but we have become confused.

Intentional Kinship activities can help us remember.

The Kinship mu’alim helps coordinate activities and opportunities to connect with friends on the path.

Harmonious, healthy relationships are the ideal within oneself, within the family, the community, the nation, and the world.

A unique opportunity for friendship is also available for shaikhs, guides and initiators who serve mureeds. One of Sirat-i Inayat’s Kinship activities is a monthly peer support meeting for teachers who wish to learn and grow with each other, to share resources, and benefit from the wisdom of each other’s experiences in the Guide/mureed relationship. These meetings are open to Sufi initiators and guides in any Sufi order.

It is said that the Sufi path is the path of friendship. The Kinship ray helps us tend to that reality in our spiritual family.

Zahira McKay

Zahira McKay

Mu’alimah of the Ray of Kinship


Zahira McKay lives in Colorado. She serves as a Mu’alimah holding the Ray of Kinship. She is an ordained Cherag, is in training to be a Spiritual Director, and leads semi-monthly Kinship activities. Zahira is a founding member of Sirat-i Inayat and has been a Sufi mureed since 2018.

Check our calendar for Kinship Ray events or contact Zahira for more information.